7 Reasons why a loved one may be avoiding treatment

Today’s Westernized cultures, societies, and standards of living push a notion of perfection – especially through our intense interactions with the media. People are now aiming to achieve a higher status to sustain influence and be thought of positively by people; often delaying or rejecting particular actions that imply weakness or negative impressions of themselves. It … Continued


The Apps I Use

My Crisis Plan defines specific steps I follow to deal with crisis. They range from the very basic, trying to calm myself, to the very difficult, reaching out for help. But the point is they establish a step by step response to crisis that, I’ve learned over time, works for me. My Plan directs me … Continued


Hello, Nourished Life

I’m in the process of saying goodbye to somebody. Unlike most goodbyes, that we want to avoid because they make us sad, this is a goodbye I happily walk toward. I’m saying goodbye to this girl: She looks happy right? She seems nice, confident, smiling. This is where she fools you. Although I was 20-years … Continued


Heartbeats

I don’t remember a time where I felt safe, I was not safe from the world, my home, my life, and I was definitely never safe from myself.  For most of my adolescent life, I had this understanding with myself that adulthood would not be a part of my story, I could never survive past … Continued


Love Need Not End

The last month or so has been a period of transition and unsteadiness, as I have moved to a new city to take on a new employment contract. I have laid my weary bones to rest on couches and air mattresses of both friends and friendly strangers with whom I have corresponded on the Internet. … Continued


How I Coped with Delay

A necessary part of your mental health recovery will be your ability to cope with, to manage, delay. That’s true here in Ontario and likely throughout the rest of Canada. Delay is endemic throughout the health system. But it’s most acutely felt, I believe, in the mental health system, where resources are scarce and the … Continued


Body, Mind, and Soul

I haven’t talked about this with really anybody ever extensively, which is why I think I need to now. I am not an expert, or a doctor, I am just a girl, and this is just my experience.   As I’m sure I’ve made evident by now in my other various posts, you probably know … Continued


ACoA Report Card: Part 1

Once we become aware of the effects that trauma has had our lives, at what point do we progress from being victims of our circumstances to being accountable for our choices? This is a question I ask myself a lot, particularly identifying as an ACoA (adult child of alcoholic). This two part article series will … Continued


My mental health is more than what is in my head

  Since I began my mental health activism in 2008, the dialogue has been predominantly around mental health/illness as being in your brain. I do not dispute the brain’s role in mental wellness. The critical skeptic in me has wondered if the large focus on the brain is a way to avoid the social determinants … Continued


Seeking Treatment – It’s Not Always Easy

I believe that as human beings we are innately intuitive, and if we allow ourselves to be still and quiet we can figure out right from wrong, good from evil, truth from lies, the right path for us. I knew something more was going on in me when I was 15 on a family vacation … Continued


Reflections Upon #MensMHDay 2017

While #MensMHDay 2017 has come and gone, I’d like to take this moment to reflect on what we accomplished in 2017 and plant the seeds for next year’s campaign. By way of background, Men’s Mental Health Awareness Day was founded by Jean-Francois Claude in 2014. Jean-Francois has lived experience with depression. Like many men, he … Continued



Buzzword: Self-Care

I’ve been talking about buzzwords in these blogs a little bit, like mental health and suicide, but a buzzword I’ve been thinking about a lot lately is self-care. Self-care is everywhere these days, isn’t it? Everywhere you look there is a post on self-care – how to self-care, self-care routines, what is self-care, why is … Continued


A National Disgrace

On Thursday I had a direct message conversation with an old online friend. Please allow me to relay the opening parts of my conversation: OF:  hey John. Long take since we chatted. I was wondering if you could help me. I’m trying to find the national suicide hotline number. JD:  sadly there is no such … Continued


Seeking: Woman with Mental Illness

Dating is difficult enough with its uncertainties and vulnerabilities, without throwing the challenges of mental health into the mix, however, trying to build a relationship when one or both parties have a mental illness requires, I would argue, even more care and consideration. Dating in this modern day is, in a word, uninspiring. With dating … Continued


Burning out the parental units

Parenting is hard work; there is not a parent around who would disagree with that statement. You arrive home from the hospital with this tiny little being and wonder, what next? What do I do now? Very quickly, that question is answered for you as you become overwhelmed with feedings and diaper changes, recognizing this … Continued


My issue with the word issue

As a person who has faced the challenges of both open heart surgery and bipolar disorder, I am all too familiar with the kind of language we use to describe illness. This language ranges from clinical and benign to negative and charged with stigma and discrimination. My issue, the one I will tackle in this … Continued


The Mother of all Responsibilities

Hey moms, I have a favour to ask you. Yes, I know, you are overwhelmed and under-appreciated. I know you don’t want to even imagine taking on another responsibility, but this one is important. I’m asking you today to do one thing that just might change the world – I want you to talk to … Continued


Why I Can’t Take Medication

Trigger warning: Talk of suicide and suicidal thoughts/emotions The use of psychiatric drugs (psych drugs) to treat mental health concerns can be a hot topic. There is an internal and external stigma attached to taking these drugs. There are numerous posts written by individuals with lived experience stating their reasons for using psych drugs to … Continued


Understood, Heard, Validated, Accepted.

**Warning: mentions of self-harm (cutting) and suicide** When I was growing up I was the happy, quiet, smiley kid. I did well in school, followed the rules – “goody two shoes”, “jesus freak”, and “innocent” were all words too familiar to me. Looking back I think my innate need to follow rules and be in … Continued