I get many questions from anxiety sufferers asking me why they are not getting better. I know it can be very frustrating for many people when you are trying to get better and nothing is working for you. I believe anyone can recover from anxiety, if they have the correct information, support and guidance.
However, I discovered that one of the biggest mistakes people make is that they make it their daily aim to get better. If you become obsessed with getting better that can actually slow down your recovery. You do not have to keep checking your symptoms to see if they are going away because doing that is a sign of anxiety and it adds stress to your already tired body. You do not have to postpone living your life until you get better. You actually get better because you have not stopped living your life. The more desperate you become, the more anxious you are going to be. Many people say, “When I recover I will go and see that movie.” No. If you want to go see a movie, just go do it. If you put timetables on your recovery, you will never recover from anxiety.
That is why I am a firm believer in becoming a willing student, which refers to a focus on the process instead of obsessing about the outcome. The process is more important than the destination. Focusing on the process is like being on the right road. As long as you are on the right road, you know you will get to where you are going- to full recovery. You just have to avoid worrying too much about the actual destination.
About Tawanda Chirenda
Tawanda Chirenda is an anxiety-transformation and resilience-building coach, speaker and founder of The Willing Student Method, a program that helps individuals overcome anxiety, build resilience and live a happier, more purpose-filled life as a result. Although Tawanda is now a resilience-building coach, he came to it the long, hard way, through many years of struggling with anxiety, failure, and helplessness. At the age of 25, Tawanda was diagnosed with an anxiety disorder that drastically affected his normal functioning and everyday life. Through a willingness to learn, grow and change, Tawanda was able to successfully recover from this condition and regain his healthy and productive life. Tawanda has been fully recovered for more than 7 years now and he is a much stronger person than before. You can connect with Tawanda on Twitter and Facebook or visit his website, www.thewillingstudent.com, to learn more about his work.