The one lesson I’ve learned in life is that it’s always changing. For so long, I resisted change when it was happening, and looking back, I can see the unnecessary pain and suffering I caused for myself. I had always believed that things had to remain a certain way, or be done like they’d always been done because that’s what I had been taught. I wanted to hold fast to the things that had shaped me into the person I was, thinking that if I let go of those things, I would lose myself in the process. By accepting that change is not only good, but healthy, I was able to open my mind to new possibilities.
For instance, I never imagined that I would be a voice for people living with mental illness. Yet here I am, sharing my stories of struggles and hope, in hopes that by doing so it will somehow make others’ journeys easier. It’s given me a sense of purpose and belonging that I had been lacking. I’m evolving into an advocate for others who live with mental illness and challenging myself every day to be louder. I’ve found my voice that speaks to who I am, not who others programmed me to be.
Change isn’t easy. It means being able to let go of the things and ideas that have shaped us into the people we are today. It requires you to dig deep and challenge your beliefs and not be afraid to think differently. You deserve the chance to be YOU. I would encourage you to use the help of a therapist if the thought of change frightens you or you feel you need support – they’re a great resource and were invaluable to my own recovery.
I will say that since I’ve taken on the attitude of embracing change, my outlook on life has improved significantly! Life now is exciting and adventurous!
About Wendy Enberg
My name is Wendy Enberg and I live openly with mental illness. I have been diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD), Major Depressive Disorder and Generalized Anxiety Disorder. I reside near Edmonton, AB. I began sharing my story with others as a way to remove stigma and raise awareness and compassion for people living with mental illness. I started with a Facebook page where I posted inspirational messages. This grew into a blog about living with BPD at where I openly share my struggles and my successes. This wasn't enough. In July of 2014, I co-founded a peer support group in my community for people living with mental illness that provides online and weekly support meetings. Our membership continues to grow each day and we are gaining a presence in the mental health community.